This topic inspired on this article:
http://nymag.com/news/features/67024/
One truth about parenting is happiness level decreases after becoming parent. In the beginning you have exciting moment because you are waited so much to become parent. But as days goes that new human being does not really matters, you want to enjoy your life. Don't have a kid just to have a kid. You should really, really want one. And not for a selfish reason like "I don't want to be alone when I'm old.", or "Some of our friends have one" etc.
One reason why parent hate being parent is they cannot enjoy the life they want to. It is inconvenient, messy, noisy and full of work (and sacrifice, such as Saturday at Chuck E. Cheese, or drop of the classes) but it is hardly the only aspect of life that is like that and it is certainly not boring. There is nothing easy about being a parent. You give up a lot of your life. You may give up almost all of your recreational activities for awhile. You will be tired. You will be stressed. You will spend a lot of money.
Parenting isn't about being happier. It is about being a bigger and better person. Children make your life BIGGER. You feel moments of happiness like you've never felt before. You also feel moments of anger like you've never felt before.
It really is indescribable and not for the faint of heart or the selfish. The beautiful thing about parenting is that it shows you who you really are (not who you think you are), and gives you chances every day to grow.
It makes you see what really matters in life, assuming you actually come to this realization. I've seen plenty of people not realize this and fight to keep their identity, their original idea of what they wanted for themselves while also trying to be a parent. That doesn't work.
Part of parenting is a certain amount of ego destruction. You have to go through that if you want to genuinely care for another human being.
This is what makes the experience of parenting so great. It is a kind of Zen experience of making yourself better by destroying your concept of self (and putting another 'self' first more than your own self would like).
I got to say I hate people who become parent and do not embrace themselves as a parent.
Becoming a parent is the best and worst thing that ever happened to me.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
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Sunday, May 02, 2010
Oceans ( Earth Day Movie )
I think "Oceans" is a great Earth Day movie that tells the importance of the ocean and what we are doing to destroy it. Fish, turtles, whales, sharks, and other sea animals show the beauty of the ocean that we don't get to see very often because it is rare in the deep, vast ocean. These sea animals don't disturb you if you don't disturb them. You don't need to feed them food or trash or anything else that will harm them because they find the right food for themselves and they wouldn't even try to harm you.
When I came to the part when there was trash in the ocean as well as a shopping cart and there was fish eating the trash and fish who were finding shelter in the cart, I was worried for these fish because people out there are making them die. The ocean shouldn't be a dump just like how your room shouldn't be a place to throw candy wrappers and empty soda bottles, but people seem not to care and realize how animals are living not just in the ocean, but also in rain forests, riverbeds, and every place else.
Just like how we have our own life, the fish have theirs. Just like how we go to the grocery store to buy dinner, the fish fight amongst themselves for theirs. Octopuses come out of their dark home looking for fish to strangle and when there is a predator around, the octopus changes color to camouflage to the surrounding atmosphere to prevent its predator from snacking on it. We don't need to feed any ocean animal our trash just let them kill each other for their own dinner because it is their jobs to do so.
When you look at the ocean, think of the animals there because we are considered to support them rather than killing them for no specific reason, whether it is a single coral reef or whether it is a humpback whale, we shouldn't litter the ocean because one single person that does litter the ocean, kills millions of animals.
Megha Patel
Grade: 6
San Ramon
When I came to the part when there was trash in the ocean as well as a shopping cart and there was fish eating the trash and fish who were finding shelter in the cart, I was worried for these fish because people out there are making them die. The ocean shouldn't be a dump just like how your room shouldn't be a place to throw candy wrappers and empty soda bottles, but people seem not to care and realize how animals are living not just in the ocean, but also in rain forests, riverbeds, and every place else.
Just like how we have our own life, the fish have theirs. Just like how we go to the grocery store to buy dinner, the fish fight amongst themselves for theirs. Octopuses come out of their dark home looking for fish to strangle and when there is a predator around, the octopus changes color to camouflage to the surrounding atmosphere to prevent its predator from snacking on it. We don't need to feed any ocean animal our trash just let them kill each other for their own dinner because it is their jobs to do so.
When you look at the ocean, think of the animals there because we are considered to support them rather than killing them for no specific reason, whether it is a single coral reef or whether it is a humpback whale, we shouldn't litter the ocean because one single person that does litter the ocean, kills millions of animals.
Megha Patel
Grade: 6
San Ramon
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Soon a good time to buy House?
The brief period of stabilization in housing appears to be over and the next leg-down has begun. Mortgage rates are edging higher, foreclosures are on the rise, and the government programs that supported the sector, are being phased out. The uptick in bank-owned properties (REO) is adding to surplus inventory and pushing down prices. A recently released report from First American CoreLogic shows that "distressed sales accounted for 29 per cent of all sales nationwide." Nearly one-third of all home sales are distressed REOs. Also, according to a report from Clear Capital, "Home prices nationally have dropped 3.9 percent quarter to quarter, the first quarterly drop in nine months. (Thanks to Diana Olick, Realty Check, CNBC) Bottom line: More people are being forced from their homes, the banks are facing bigger losses, and the housing market is on the skids.
"Two major banks are expecting major increases in foreclosures, by the end of 2010. " According to the Irvine Housing blog, Bank of America, which currently forecloses on 7,500 homes every month will see that number rise to 45,000 by December 2010.....
“JPMorgan Chase is forecasting bigger foreclosure numbers in the coming months. According to a presentation at the end of February, JPMorgan expects the amount of real estate owned (REO) properties in its portfolio to reach between 33,000 to 45,000 in Q410. By comparison, in Q409, REO inventories were at 23,100."
Bank of America's 6X increase in projected foreclosures is a real eye-popper. It suggests that housing prices (particularly in California) have quite a bit further to tumble. This will effect everything from private consumption to state revenues. It's a disaster.
8 million homeowners are behind on their payments! And, that's not all; mortgage applications dropped 9.6 per cent last week while the Refinance Index (refis) fell 9 per cent in the same period. So, mortgage apps are down even though the Firsttime Homebuyer Tax Credit is still in effect (it ends in two weeks) and, even though this is the "peak season" for home sales.
Because the banks have been withholding supply to keep prices artificially high. There may have been an understanding between the banks and the Fed (a quid pro quo?) to keep inventory low so it looked like Bernanke's $1.25 trillion Quantitative Easing (QE) program was actually stabilizing the market. But now that the banks are stuffed with reserves, there's no need to continue the charade. So the dumping of backlog homes has begun. That will cause inventories to rise and prices to fall. More homeowners will slip into negative equity which will lead to even more foreclosures. It's a vicious circle. If the coming wave of foreclosures is anything close to Bank of America's projections, there's a world of pain ahead.
"Two major banks are expecting major increases in foreclosures, by the end of 2010. " According to the Irvine Housing blog, Bank of America, which currently forecloses on 7,500 homes every month will see that number rise to 45,000 by December 2010.....
“JPMorgan Chase is forecasting bigger foreclosure numbers in the coming months. According to a presentation at the end of February, JPMorgan expects the amount of real estate owned (REO) properties in its portfolio to reach between 33,000 to 45,000 in Q410. By comparison, in Q409, REO inventories were at 23,100."
Bank of America's 6X increase in projected foreclosures is a real eye-popper. It suggests that housing prices (particularly in California) have quite a bit further to tumble. This will effect everything from private consumption to state revenues. It's a disaster.
8 million homeowners are behind on their payments! And, that's not all; mortgage applications dropped 9.6 per cent last week while the Refinance Index (refis) fell 9 per cent in the same period. So, mortgage apps are down even though the Firsttime Homebuyer Tax Credit is still in effect (it ends in two weeks) and, even though this is the "peak season" for home sales.
Because the banks have been withholding supply to keep prices artificially high. There may have been an understanding between the banks and the Fed (a quid pro quo?) to keep inventory low so it looked like Bernanke's $1.25 trillion Quantitative Easing (QE) program was actually stabilizing the market. But now that the banks are stuffed with reserves, there's no need to continue the charade. So the dumping of backlog homes has begun. That will cause inventories to rise and prices to fall. More homeowners will slip into negative equity which will lead to even more foreclosures. It's a vicious circle. If the coming wave of foreclosures is anything close to Bank of America's projections, there's a world of pain ahead.
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